Sunday, 10 August 2014

What the world needs...

You all know I am sentimental and idealistic and I hope to a certain extent that I will always be this way. If you could change the world and were given the chance to would you? I recently watched an excerpt of "The Great Dictator" and I was deeply moved by the last speech which I just want to share with you. This view has changed my world.
I'm sorry but I don't want to be an emperor. That's not my business. I don't want to rule or conquer anyone. I should like to help everyone if possible; Jew, Gentile, black men, white. We all want to help one another. Human beings are like that. We want to live by each others' happiness, not by each other's misery. We don't want to hate and despise one another. In this world there is room for everyone. And the good earth is rich and can provide for everyone. The way of life can be free and beautiful, but we have lost the way.

Greed has poisoned men's souls; has barricaded the world with hate; has goose-stepped us into misery and bloodshed. We have developed speed, but we have shut ourselves in. Machinery that gives abundance has left us in want. Our knowledge as made us cynical; our cleverness, hard and unkind. We think too much and feel too little. More than machinery we need humanity. More than cleverness, we need kindness and gentleness. Without these qualities, life will be violent and all will be lost. The aeroplane and the radio have brought us closer together. The very nature of these inventions cries out for the goodness in man; cries out for universal brotherhood; for the unity of us all.

Even now my voice is reaching millions throughout the world, millions of despairing men, women, and little children, victims of a system that makes men torture and imprison innocent people. To those who can hear me, I say "Do not despair." The misery that is now upon us is but the passing of greed, the bitterness of men who fear the way of human progress. The hate of men will pass, and dictators die, and the power they took from the people will return to the people. And so long as men die, liberty will never perish.

Soldiers! Don't give yourselves to brutes, men who despise you and enslave you; who regiment your lives, tell you what to do, what to think and what to feel! Who drill you, diet you, treat you like cattle, use you as cannon fodder! Don't give yourselves to these unnatural men---machine men with machine minds and machine hearts! You are not machines! You are not cattle! You are men! You have a love of humanity in your hearts! You don't hate! Only the unloved hate; the unloved and the unnatural.

Soldiers! Don't fight for slavery! Fight for liberty! In the seventeenth chapter of St. Luke, it’s written “the kingdom of God is within man”, not one man nor a group of men, but in all men! In you! You, the people, have the power, the power to create machines, the power to create happiness! You, the people, have the power to make this life free and beautiful, to make this life a wonderful adventure. Then in the name of democracy, let us use that power.

Let us all unite. Let us fight for a new world, a decent world that will give men a chance to work, that will give youth a future and old age a security. By the promise of these things, brutes have risen to power. But they lie! They do not fulfill their promise. They never will! Dictators free themselves but they enslave the people! Now let us fight to fulfill that promise! Let us fight to free the world! To do away with national barriers! To do away with greed, with hate and intolerance! Let us fight for a world of reason, a world where science and progress will lead to all men’s happiness.

Soldiers, in the name of democracy, let us all unite!

Sunday, 27 July 2014

The power of letting go

As I write this post, I just have to warn you my head is literally all over the place with millions of thoughts swimming through my mind at a nano second so if I digress please bear with me.

To say the last few weeks have been a challenge is a complete understatement. As I write this my head keeps replaying the episode I just had with a really old white lady who smelled like she had soiled her pants. I was sitting comfortably at Exclusive Books, reading Americanah by Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie with a cup of tea, desperately seeking some peace and quiet and the chance to clear my head. Perhaps I was sitting a little too comfortably as I had my feet perched up on the leather seat, the little old lady who smelled like poop ended up sitting right next to me and felt it pertinent to tell me that I should move my feet as I was going make her pants dirty! I looked at her, taking in the pink blush she had applied to her wrinkled and cracked cheeks, then I responded by saying that my feet were far from her pants and that her pants were already dirty! "You people do whatever you want, don't you?" She retorted. I followed her comment with a simple Yes.

I had to accept some truths about life, people and about myself. I have learnt several things about myself this weekend. Firstly, I have built up quite a reputation for being a "yes man", secondly I am compassionate to a fault and lastly I hold on to things and people unnecessarily.

I am the reliable friend, if you are in a bind, need to be picked up, got your keys locked in the car, I am probably one of the first people you will think to call. I am happy to help where I can, yes sometimes I will make an unhappy face, but I will be there. So that obviously means a lot of saying yes and people not understanding when I have to say no. Me saying no then often leads to my conscience plaguing me like a stuck record with the words "you really could have said yes" tormenting me!

The problem is I am just as tormented when I have agreed to offer my time, energy and effort and be there to support my "person" in distress. The words that haunt me in this instance are "why did you say yes?"! Reason being is I have a very independent spirit and I have always believed that if I want something done I have to do it myself, help is something I don't even know how to ask for! It's never something I have ever known how to do.I know I'm writing in a very circular way but like I said please bear with me.

I said "yes" several times this weekend when I really should have said no, emphatically so! The result was I spent the whole weekend feeling drained physically and emotionally, angry with myself and questioning my decisions.

I looked for the root of my compulsive yes man syndrome and its because I'm compassionate and nurturing by nature. Seeing someone I care about struggle, suffer, or go through something painful is not something I can ever be ok with, especially if I can help even in a small way. It just pains me to my soul that my compassion and nurturing spirit is seldom returned and is often taken advantage of. As was the case this weekend on several occasions which I will not get into. In fact the last few months if I am truly honest have just been a kick to the groin!

Because of my "yes man" syndrome and my fault-riddled compassion I have been holding onto things and people for so long. Things and people who let go of me a long time ago. Friends, family, harsh words exchanged, incidents where no regard was had for my feelings, regrets, I could go on forever.

I'm done with living in my misery. I'm done feeling guilty about saying no, I'm done being angry with myself for the times I have said yes when I should have said no, I'm tired of giving myself to people and situations where my feelings are of little or no concern, I'm done with self-sacrificing and I'm done fighting with racist old ladies who reek of shit... or sitting next to them for that matter!

I am choosing to just let go of all of the unnecessary and be selfish with myself,  my time, my efforts, my love, my life...

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Tuesday, 17 June 2014

That's the thing about love

"Oh, tell me that I am not the only one going through it all? Oh, sometimes I feel like I'm the only one going through it all!"... A line from one of my favourite Alicia Keys' songs "That's the thing about Love". This love thing though! It's just such a source of confusion at this stage in my life. Perhaps let me clarify what I mean, I am confused about this elusive 'romantic love' thing, I have plenty of love in my life from my family and friends right down to my job and my interests outside of my 9 to 5 and of course the greatest love of all, God. Its just this romantic love thing, I simply don't get it.

I have a few friends who are in the throws of this interesting stage of life where they are past the age of 25, single, career-focused and happy but if Prince Charming showed up on his white horse tomorrow, honestly, at this stage just any plain old white vehicle... in fact just a vehicle, they would give away all of that single girl freedom just to experience a real and true love.

I don't want to go into too much detail about myself but I'm torn between three scenarios. An awesome man who truly loves me, a charming unconventional man who comes with some very unconventional circumstances whom I can see myself being madly in love with and Myself, holding on to the person I have spent so long developing and nurturing whom I quite simply don't want to let go of!

None of these scenarios ever played out in my head when I imagined my fairytale love story and what my life would be like at 28 years old. I find myself going through the most random Google searches with even stranger results... "How do you know if he is the one?", "How to date an older man?"... I mean??? What I think I want versus What I actually need!

This post isn't about getting answers or giving advice, it's just a tiny SOS from my heart to the ears of heaven.

If all else fails I can carry on pouring my love out the best way I know how... shoes!

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Thursday, 6 February 2014

I finally did it...

So I finally cut my hair! I finally did the BC and funny enough it wasn’t nearly the harrowing experience I had thought it would be when I first started toying with the idea  of chopping off my locks. I cut it in early January but because I was changing jobs and I didn’t want to grow this change while changing jobs, so I had some braids in.

Brand New Me

My "in the meantime look" before I let my hair out

I am super happy with how it turned out and I love my new look.